Well, at least on my part. My opinion does weigh a lot in this and it’s NOT a fun position to be in. I suggested today that we find another program for a child.
Was it because his behaviors are so outrageous that we can’t handle them? No.
Was it because the teachers were beyond their abilities? Absolutely not! As a matter of fact, the child’s behaviors have greatly improved since he has been with these teachers…just not enough.
Was it because he was too much for anyone to handle? Nope, as a matter of fact, I haven’t run into one person at that center who wants to see him go.
So, why, then, do I feel like he should benefit someplace else?
For two reasons:
First, he needs more attention than we can give him. He takes more than 50% of the teaching staff’s time every day. If there were only a 1:2 ratio, this wouldn’t be a bad thing. However, our ratio is 1:8. Anything more than 20% is excessive.
Does it really come down to the math? No…and yes. That leads to the second reason. It’s not fair to all the other children in the program. It’s not that he was getting 50% of the time of ONE teacher…he was getting 50% of the time with ALL the teachers in that particular room AND, while outside, a good chunk of time from all the other staff out there.
The other children are missing out on so much interaction, education, and experiences.
This is NOT a decision I came to lightly. I’ve been struggling with it for quite a while now. I sat down with the Director of that site today and explained my thoughts to her. I think she knew/knows the right thing to do…but no one wants to “give up” on a child.
It’s not giving up. It’s giving him another opportunity, and opportunity that he just isn’t getting with us. It’s also giving every other child in the center an opportunity that has been missing for him.
So, what was my deciding point? I don’t have any one particular point; however I came to an understanding the other day as I was thinking about this situation: the center was becoming defined by what we do for this child…not what we do for children. The center was/is revolving around him and him only…that’s just not right.